Everyone wants their wedding day to go perfectly without a hitch, however there may be some aspects of your wedding that you regret.
Maybe the colour wasn’t quite right on the bridesmaids, or maybe you should have got a 4th tier on your cake. Whatever the issue, I asked some brides what their top wedding regrets were. The answers were really interesting, and I hope they’ll give brides-to-be some ideas/advice about handling their own day.
Top Wedding Regrets
I wish I hadn’t got so stressed by the whole thing, it made me feel so ill. And spoiled my day. Also wish I hadn’t let people interfere — Jess Hible, Mrs Hible
I completely agree with Jess about not letting family interfere. It doesn’t matter who is paying for what, it’s still your day. They offered to pay, it wasn’t an obligation. Have what you want and when you want it. And don’t get too stressed otherwise you can’t enjoy your day. If you really are worried, take Alex’s advice:
Hire a coordinator! Even if it’s just for the month of the wedding. We help more than you realise! — Alex Fielder, In a Field of Books
My sister, Claire from Bouquet and Bells, offers co-ordination just the day of the wedding. If anything goes wrong on the day, she can fix it. If the cake hasn’t been delivered, she can chase up where it is for you, so you don’t have to panic.
Letting my mother have such a huge say in everything. Although she was paying, it was still my day — Ann Drist
This is a tough one that I’ve seen a lot. The bride’s or groom’s parents put money in, so they want to invite their friends and have their say on the groom’s suit and the bride’s shoes.
Have what you want and that’s that.
I would have chosen my bridesmaids more carefully. Some of them were dealing with disappointment with their own relationships & inadvertently took that out on me, acted bored during events, weren’t helpful, whiny, just weren’t there for me — Happy Glam Fab
This is a really tough one. You might have got engaged two years before you got married, so how can you know that you’ll still have the same relationship with your bridesmaids? I’ve been lucky with mine. My sister is maid of honour, two of my bridesmaids were friends from high school, so I’ve known them 10 years. The other two are my fiance’s sisters who I’ve known for nearly 6 years.
I made sure that I was happy with my choice. So far, they’ve all been more than helpful, and have bent over backwards to make it to dress appointments.
My biggest advice would be don’t get too excited straight after you’ve got engaged and ask them. Really think about the decision.
I would’ve eloped and taken immediate family, sans my older sister, with us and just had fun! Also would’ve remembered my dress hoop — Sharion Conley
I’ve heard of people having a big wedding, and wishing they’d spent less. I’ve heard of people having a small wedding and wishing they’d made more of the celebration. Eloping is always an option, albeit an expensive one with accommodation and flights.
And don’t forget your dress hoop like Sharion!
Or your jewellery, or anything else important (rings!!)
I was too stressed when taking pictures and it showed. I regret not being less tense — Almost Sane Mom
Not everyone likes having their picture taken, but being uncomfortable in front of the camera will show in your pictures, forever. If you feel tense before the wedding, a massage might be a good idea to remove tension from your neck and shoulders. This will improve your posture on the day.
I put far too much pressure on having “that feeling” when you find the dress — Holly, Thimbles and Spoons (she expands on buying her wedding dress in the linked post).
I did the same as Holly and told myself that if my wedding party didn’t cry when I came out of the dressing room, the dress wasn’t right. Luckily we all cried and liked it. But what if we hadn’t? And what if we’d traipsed round five more shops to try and get that feeling?
Do not put that much pressure on yourself. Go with an open mind, try on all colours, designs, materials and styles, and you’ll find one that you love.
Thank you so much to everyone who shared their top wedding regrets with me! Have you got any that aren’t on this list?