The little things mean a lot, and this is especially the case when you are planning your big day.
Wedding planning is something that can completely consume your life, from the moment the question is popped all the way through to the day itself.
The difficult thing in planning your perfect day is that you want it to be so perfect that there are going to be things that will go wrong. This is inevitable. But there are some small things that a lot of us do not consider when we are planning our wedding. Consider these little details when planning a wedding before you do anything else!
Guest List Above Anything
Don’t rush into organising things too quickly without sorting your guest list first. Not your venue, or your cake, or anything else!
How can you possibly decide on a venue, when you don’t know how many guests you will have?
The guest list is the thing that determines the other aspects of your wedding. It’s not the most exciting part of planning, especially if you are struggling to decide which aunt you want to invite.
If you’d set your heart on and booked a small cosy venue that houses 60 people, but then invite over 200, how will that work? If you’ve paid a deposit, that’s down the drain, which could be a couple of thousand pounds.
Think very carefully about what type of wedding you want. Close and intimate? Or big and bold? If you want a large wedding, pick a big manor house, marquee or hotel. If you want a small and intimate wedding, pick a boutique hotel or a tipi.
These things also tie in with budget. You can’t invite 200 guests if you have a budget of under £5,000. It’ll be impossible. Work out how much you can spend, or are willing to spend.
So sit down, create your guest list and then look at venues that fit the bill.
Doing It Yourself
It makes a lot of sense to take on wedding planning duties yourself, mainly because it’s cheaper.
Some duties may appear simple at first, such as designing the invitations on your computer and then printing them out to mail off to the invitees. But this is never as easy as you first think.
There can be a lot more hassle to get this one little thing done when there are so many other things that are important. By stressing over DIY invites, you might be losing sight of some of the bigger, more important issues that crop up.
So, for things like invitations, place cards, and little trinkets, is there any point in making them yourself, which will be endless late nights, for them to turn out not quite what you wanted? These little details when planning a wedding can turn into big ones!
You’re better going online and finding companies that do wonderful bespoke designs, and you can find plenty on Etsy, but also invitation design sites like Pure Invitation.
It might work out slightly more expensive, but if it saves you precious time and stress, it’s worth it.
Think About The Worst Case Scenario
Most people don’t want to think about the worst case scenario. So they ignore it!
But, anyone planning a wedding needs to understand that there will very likely be some tiny flaws, maybe now, maybe on the day, or maybe all the way through the wedding planning.
When you hit a problem, it can feel like a big deal. The important thing to do in this instance is to stop, take a deep breath, and think about if these things will matter a few years from now?
Will you look back on your big day, on your one year anniversary, and think about how the table linen was white when it should have been off-white? It’s very unlikely!
And on the other end of the spectrum, if there are extreme worst-case scenarios arising, such as the band not turning up, you need to think about a way around it. Contingency plans need to be thought about, because if you don’t have a backup plan, then you’ve got nothing.
So, if the band doesn’t turn up, have a pre-made CD ready.
If the hairdresser hasn’t done your hair perfectly on the day, can a bridesmaid or guest redo it?
If there are concerns with the weather, is there a backup option to have canapes away from the terrace?
There is always a solution to a problem, so make sure you have one in your back pocket. It’s very unlikely you will need it, but it will make you feel a lot better during the planning process.
Not Assigning Duties For The Day
Everything should run like clockwork on the day/ The order of service, the time of the meal, and everything in between and afterwards should be scheduled in. Your best method, rather than doing it all yourself, is to spread the duties.
You shouldn’t give any duties to yourself. It’s your day, you don’t want the stress. Similarly, don’t assign all duties to one person. That isn’t fair, and they won’t enjoy your day either.
If you make a list of duties, and deal them out between 5 or 6 people. This could be bridesmaids, best men, ushers, etc. It’s better for everyone to have a couple of duties which takes the strain off.
These little details when planning a wedding can turn into big problems if not addressed properly. We think we can organise everything ourselves, but this adds more work. Think about the little things way in advance. And prepare for every situation.