How to Calmly Plan Your Wedding

Planning a party for 150 people when you’ve never even planned one for 20 people before is a big deal. Calmly plan your wedding using these tips and suggestions!

Congratulations on your engagement! Now is for the exciting part: the planning. You’ve got a blank slate, all the suppliers in the world to choose from and a full budget. At first it’s so exciting. But when your florist sells her business, your hairdresser cancels and your vicar announces his retirement you might start to panic (and yes, all of those have happened to me in the last 3 months).


Get organised

I have a wedding folder that is getting larger and larger each month, but without it I’d be lost. It’s where I put any invoices if I’ve paid deposits/the full amount. There’s a lot to remember and things get confusing when you have 15 suppliers. Keep track of what you’ve paid and when to calmly plan your wedding.

To stop you panicking about budget, work out exactly what you can save every month, and how much you’re being given by other family members. You don’t want to run out of budget and have to start applying for credit cards and loans. This will ruin the whole planning process.

Work out your budget and how many people you need to invite. The rest can follow from there.


Keep in touch with your suppliers

Don’t bombard them, but if you have any questions, feel free to email them once they’ve been booked. This kind of contact means they are more likely to remember you and also puts your mind at rest.

Remind them a couple of weeks before an appointment that there is an appointment. I booked my make up trial, and got there only to be greeted by another bride. The MUA had double booked. I’d booked my appointment months before, and the other bride had only booked a couple of weeks before. If you do book something months in advance, phone ahead to remind them and make sure the meeting is still on.


Find all the free tools available to you

You are not the first woman to plan her wedding. There are so many amazing free tools on the internet provided by others who have got married. It’s where I got the template for my budget spreadsheet, where I found some of my suppliers, and also where I got advice. A website such as is full of inspiration, things to buy, planning ideas, local wedding fayres, and even competitions you can enter for free.

Absolutely use this to calmly plan your wedding and help you through those times when you’ve hit a wall.


Do things sooner than you think

I thought organising my bridesmaids dresses in October for the following April was enough notice. But they won’t come in until mid February, leaving not much time for alterations. Always do things sooner than you think.

With items like invitations, it can take a while for you to work out the wording you want. By the time you get them ordered, delivered, put into envelopes and taken to the post office for posting, another two weeks might have gone by. What if there’s a delay or a load of guests don’t receive theirs? Avoid stress by leaving yourself plenty of time.



Calmly plan your wedding with minimal stress using these tips and suggestions!



Header photo credit: Rachel Clarke,

4 DIY Wedding Catering Options

DIY wedding catering options are a much cheaper way to feed your guests.

If you’re planning a wedding, like me, you know how expensive every little thing is. It costs extra to have tap water on the tables, extra for a cake knife and extra for tablecloths. When it comes to a wedding, it’s all about saving as much as you can where you can without things looking cheap or tacky.

Catering can be a huge expense on the day. If you keep it small and intimate, then you could probably get your catering under £1000. But if like me you’ve gone mad with the guest list and have 90 day guests to feed, the cost can and will shoot up.

So how can you bring down the cost of your catering without going too cheap and nasty?



If you’re planning on DIYing your catering, it’s important that you have the right equipment. Often, our attention goes straight to what we’re going to serve with less consideration for how we’re going to serve it.  

The first thing you’ll need to find is something akin to stainless steel catering tables that can stand the rigour of kitchen labour and the substantial weight of the food you’ll be serving. You’ll also want to consider how to keep the food warm. As an example, if you’re serving a buffet with pulled pork as a feature, then slow cookers (also known as crock pots) are a great way to keep the food at a safe temperature without any need for human interference…and most of your friends will have one lying about somewhere at home!

Irrespective of the challenge, catering your own wedding is a great way to save money so here are three simple and cheap ideas you can use for your wedding as a sit-down alternative.



A rustic themed wedding can open the door to a more relaxed and collaborative effort. Some weddings even encourage guests to get involved with bringing a particular dish like a street party.

The great thing about offering a rustic buffet is that the food tends to be cold, meaning all you need to do is keep it chilled and then have people set it up in less than thirty minutes. In terms of equipment, a few paper plates and large serving spoons is all you’ll need.

Large buffet on long wooden table


If you’re planning a summer wedding, what better way to celebrate than with a barbecue? The smells, the tastes, the camaraderie of it all.  Gas barbecues are by far the easiest and it offers a very convenient way to cater larger weddings. All you’ll need are a few tables of interesting salads as a buffet, a variety of sauces, and a few cooler boxes packed with meat to be grilled in the afternoon. This DIY wedding catering option is one everyone can get involved in.


Afternoon Tea

I suggested the idea of afternoon tea to Jay and he loved it. We’re having this as our evening buffet option. There will be a mixture of finger sandwiches, wedding cake in a variety of four flavours, and scones with jam and cream. We also decided to add a cheese board to this option as well.

This is the sort of buffet you could prepare yourself a few days in advance if you wanted. Sandwiches can easily be made at home, scones can be ordered in, and obviously wedding cake is an obvious way to serve dessert at no extra cost.



Okay, technically this isn’t catering your own wedding. But it’s a low-cost equivalent that will save you heaps of time and is quirky.  Whilst many brides might turn their noses up at the thought of tucking into fish and chips on their wedding day, others will embrace the unpretentious and relaxed vibe that allows everyone to focus on what’s really important.

Now, this is your wedding day so there should be consideration for hiring a food truck and perhaps a boutique ice cream van rather than the local chippy and Mr Whippy. But in a pinch, this could be positioned as a genius idea that brings people closer together.

Ice cream van on a beach

The key point to remember on your wedding day is that this is your wedding day. It’s a celebration of the love between you and your partner. Choose whatever you want. I preferred to have a more formal sit-down meal but this option isn’t for everyone, and is the more expensive option too. It’s your day, have what you want and everyone else will enjoy it too!